1. I can change my husband
~ through prayer ~ praying daily for God’s will in his life - guarding him in prayers of protection - praying with him has often given him insights into my heart and mind
2.Three people in our marriage is a must
~ there have been times Jason and I have tried to settle issues or make decisions on our own and just messed it up.. We must keep Jesus in our marriage
3. 50% isn’t enough
~ 110% is required - We do best when we try to outserve each other
4. Jason is more important than my children
~ Making sure our house isn’t child centered even though there are more children than adults ~ making sure my children know that their father is at the top of the list ~ remembering that Jason and I were a family before we had 6 children and will be a family when all 6 have moved on
5. No saying No
~ saying No as little as possible is one of our parenting rules - It is true in our relationship too - saying lets try your idea or how can I help/support your thought/idea/decision even if I can think of lots of reasons to say No
6. Have a back-up plan
~~ Yep we made a back-up plan of what to do in case we were afflicted with addiction or other personal issues that may threaten our family - we also never say divorce etc Quitting isn’t an option - the plan is there to ensure we can weather any storm and cme back together stronger than ever
7. Jason is in charge
- Yep our country has a president - a company a CEO and our family has a leader too.. Yep I counsel - suggest - give opinions etc but I don’t have the final say
8. I don’t tell Jason everything
- Nope I don’t have huge secrets and often tell people who ask me to keep a secret that I may have to share it with Jason… but in general Jason doesn’t want to hear all the things people tell me, all my thoughts- so I don’t tell him everything
9. We both love God more than we love each other
We have learned over the years that is we love God and keep growing to be more like Christ that we grow closer to each other - when that balance is upset we quickly begin to grow apart
10. Some days we don’t like each other
~ One morning I said to Jason “At least you are good to look at” Yep he still reminds me of that - We always love each other but some days the fact that we are opposites in so many ways really shines through… It is ok we aren’t mean etc and have learned that like most things it passes…
